One of the biggest frustrations for escorts is dealing with timewasters—people who book appointments with no real intention of following through. These individuals can be irritating, take up valuable time, and even pose risks if their behaviour escalates.
At Intimate Link, we want to help you recognise and avoid timewasters so you can focus on genuine, respectful clients. Here’s how to spot them and protect your time and energy.
1. Who Are Timewasters?
Timewasters come in different forms, but their common trait is a lack of genuine intention to book a session or treat you with respect. Here are some typical types:
- No-Shows – They book appointments but never turn up.
- Chronic Enquirers – They keep asking questions but never confirm a booking.
- Price Hagglers – They try to negotiate fees down, often disrespectfully.
- Fantasy Callers – They get pleasure from long conversations but never actually book.
- Fake Bookers – They confirm an appointment but cancel last minute or disappear.
- Abusive Timewasters – They send disrespectful messages or harass escorts for attention.
📌 Tip: Learning to recognise these behaviours can help you cut off timewasters early and focus on serious clients.
2. Common Signs of a Timewaster
🚨 Watch out for these red flags:
❌ Endless Questions – They keep messaging but avoid setting a time or confirming details.
❌ Last-Minute Cancellations – They book and cancel repeatedly, wasting your time.
❌ Asking for Free Photos – They request explicit images but never book.
❌ Trying to Negotiate Prices – They push for discounts or say they’ll “pay extra next time.”
❌ Being Rude or Inappropriate – They send crude messages but never book.
❌ Making Unrealistic Requests – They ask for unsafe services or demand too much for too little.
❌ Refusing to Follow Your Screening Process – Genuine clients respect your boundaries.
📌 Tip: If a client seems unsure, keeps delaying, or doesn’t respect your process, they’re likely a timewaster.
3. How to Deal with Timewasters
1. Set Clear Boundaries
- Be upfront about your rates, services, and rules.
- Avoid engaging in long, unnecessary conversations.
- If a client asks too many irrelevant questions, cut off the chat.
2. Implement a Screening Process
- Ask for a name, contact number, and deposit if possible.
- Insist on a confirmation call or text before the booking.
- Use online blacklists like ClientEye or National Ugly Mugs to check for known timewasters.
3. Charge a Deposit for Bookings
- Asking for a small deposit filters out serious clients from timewasters.
- Timewasters are unlikely to pay upfront, helping you avoid wasted time.
4. Trust Your Instincts
- If a client feels unreliable, don’t waste time trying to convince them.
- Walk away from any situation that doesn’t feel right.
5. Keep a List of Repeat Timewasters
- If someone repeatedly wastes your time, block and blacklist them.
- Share information with trusted escorts to help others avoid them too.
📌 Tip: Don’t let politeness trap you in a conversation with a timewaster. It’s your right to say no and move on.
Final Thoughts: Prioritise Your Time
Timewasters are unavoidable in the escort industry, but knowing how to identify and handle them will help you focus on real clients. Setting clear boundaries, screening effectively, and trusting your instincts can save you hours of frustration.
At Intimate Link, we’re here to support your success and safety. For more advice, visit our Sex Worker Safety Hub. 💜